A little about me

I am extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end. -- Margaret Thatcher

The best way for me to start out this blog is to tell everyone a little about myself. I am 29 years old and fearing the big 3-0 (which will be here in 71 days). I was married at the ripe old age of 20. Had my daughter when I was 22; my first son was born when I was 24; and I was 26 the day my second son was born.

In December of 2008, I was hit in the face that my husband was not faithfully committed to our marriage and I filed for divorce in February. Our divorce was granted and we had joint legal custody of my (yes, I said my) three tweedles. They stayed one week with me, one week with their father. Sure, some say this schedule is hard for children, but it worked great for us. That is until, my ex got a bur up his ass. I think he has decided that I must never be happy. So not to my surprise, when my new boyfriend and I became serious, he started his crap again. This time, he filed for full custody of the children. He slung all types of accusations my way – drug use, neglect – you name it. Of course, all of these accusations were false. We spent two days in hearings regarding custody. To my surprise, on Thursday, December 31, 2009 I learned that the Judge made his decision and granted my ex husband full custody of my three tweedles. I will now only be able to see them pursuant to the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines (every other weekend and one night a week) and I must pay child support to their father. To say the least, this is devastating to me. The Judge’s decision was based on my work schedule. I work approximately 45 minutes from my home in an 8:30 to 5:00 job in a law office. However, due to my schedule and the time the kids need to be awaken it is in the best interest of the children to be with their father – BOLOGNA!

So here I am – a few days after the initial shock – I am doing my best to keep an open positive mind. I know that I must be strong. I know that I AM strong. I know that I must make the best out of every moment that I do get to spend with them.

On a different note, but yet the same …..

I work full time as a legal assistant in the labor and employment department of a large law firm. I have a wide range of interest (some which are mine and some of which I have been coaxed into by my tweedles and/or boyfriend) – cooking, the internet, outdoors, BMX, motocross, the list goes on.

My boyfriend is amazing. We have definitely had some of the most trying moments in our relationship during this past year. These moments have made us grow so close together (maybe marriage close?!?!)

I believe this is a complete rundown of me and my present situation in life.

With all that has been on my mind lately and the beginning of a new year, I thought this is the ideal time to start this thing called blog. So, set back and enjoying the read. I would love feedback – please share your thoughts, your motivations, your words to help me (and others) get through our rough times in life, enjoy the good and move forward to the future.